7 Reasons Youre Still Unfulfilled After Doing Everything Right (and How to Change That)

7 Reasons Youre Still Unfulfilled After Doing Everything Right (and How to Change That) Sometimes you can make all the right moves, land on all the right decisions and have a seemingly perfect life perhaps that looks like a good career, a comfortable home, a loving partner, healthy friendships. And, yet, you still feel like something that you cant pinpoint is just off.If youre feeling that way, youre not alone. Youre just unfulfilled.Here are seven signs that youre still unfulfilled, even after doing everything right and how to change that.1. You chew your friends ears off with complaints.If youre constantly venting to your friends as if theyre your free, personal therbeiapists, it might be a sign that youre feeling unfulfilled. Of course, friends are there to be sounding boards for you to word vomit all over at times but if youre using them in this way all the time, its not healthy. What you should do, however, is pay for a legitimate, trained therapist who can help you determin e why exactly youre feeling what youre feeling.2. Youre beyond bored.If youre sitting at the desk of your dream job feeling bored, or across the dinner table from the love of your life feeling bored, or at the park with your happy and healthy family feeling bored, you might be unfulfilled in some way.Its important to take some time to practice self-care in solitude to be with yourself to learn what it is that youre missing in your life. It might be as simple as that solo time.3. Youre never in the moment.If youre constantly finding yourself dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, never thinking in the present, its a problem. It might be a sign that the present isnt fulfilling you enough, so youre focused on other times of your life perhaps wishing youd done something differently in the past so that you would feel fulfilled now or preparing to tischset yourself up for a more fulfilling future.Practicing meditation and everyday mindfulness through breathing techniques and positive self-talk can help to bring you back to the moment and appreciate what you have instead of stressing out about what you could have had or dont have.4. You have a strong sense of jealousy.Comparison is the thief of joy its as simple as that. If you find that youre constantly jealous of friends and family who seem to have ideal lives, it might be because you dont feel like your own life is so ideal. The best possible thing you can do in this case is to stop comparing yourself and accept that you lead different lives (everyone does), and thats okay. Perhaps you need to take some time off of social media in bestellung to let this set in.5. You depend on someone else.Maybe you have it all a beautiful house, a fancy car, nice clothes and... a partner who pays for it all. Just because youve seemingly done everything right in life in order to have this lifestyle you enjoy doesnt mean that you are going to be fulfilled. If youre depending on someone else, knowing that they have co ntrol and could take it away from you at any moment, its a scary thought. Independence, after all, feels fulfilling in and of itself.6. You suffer from anxiety or depression.flaute is a silent killer others may never know that youre depressed by looking at you. Likewise, you might never guess that your seemingly happy-go-lucky friends and family members could be depressed, too. But depression affects approximately 17.3 million American adults, or about 7.1% of the U.S. population ages 18 and older, every year, according to a National Institute of Mental Health Major Depression 2017 study.If youre feeling depressed or suffering from anxiety, reach out to resources like the followingDepression Bipolar Support AllianceNational Network of Depression CentersNational Alliance on Mental IllnessAnxiety Depression Association of America7. Your head is filled with negative self-talk.Sometimes, even if you feel confident that youve done everything right, youre still down on yourself. Your h ead is filled with negative self-talk, shaming yourself for unjustified reasons (shaming yourself is never justified). This may be because, even if you have everything you theoretically want, you might be feeling unfulfilled. Perhaps the dream job isnt as exciting as you thought itd be, or the dreamy partner isnt as perfect as you thought theyd be. And then maybe you shame yourself for even feeling bad about these things when you have it so good.Practicing positive affirmations in the mirror every morning can help you to quiet the negativity. Tell yourself what you know you deserve and why. Tell yourself that youre more than good enough to have what it is that you really want and that its okay that if what you thought you wanted is no longer what you still want.--AnnaMarie Houlis is a feminist, a freelance journalist and an adventure aficionado with an affinity for impulsive solo travel. She spends her days writing about womens empowerment from around the world. You can follow her work on her blog, HerReport.org, and follow her journeys on Instagram her_report,Twitterherreport and Facebook.